Online Dating Sites?

So my rather desperate, love-seeking aunt met the "right guy" a couple months ago. He is probably equally desperate, if I'm being completely honest.

They met on Match.com, something I have MANY varied opinions on.

I'm not a fan of meeting through dating sites. I am far more supportive of meeting someone in day-to-day life, although that may be just be because of the naive romantic view of life that has polluted the minds of youthful people such as myself.

First of all, everyone on online dating sites is looking for a long-term relationship, which many people consider to be a good thing...I'm not one of those people.

I see nothing wrong with wanting a long-term relationship, but I believe that should not be the first thing you have in mind when on a first date. It should be something that develops without effort.

It's even more dangerous when both people feel this way. Suddenly, two people who are yearning for a relationship are together.

In most cases, they will probably be careful about what they say. For example, they will not voice any strong opinions of their's in fear of offending the other. They'll keep it very safe.

As long as a couple of jokes are made and both parties appear decent and normal, a second date will be set in all probability, as these are two people looking for love and not willing to let an opportunity slip by.

Obviously, all throughout the dating process, the two individuals will be attempting to impress the other. From there, it is very easy to become "close" to the other person just because of the lack of any obvious flaws, rather than actual personality.

I believe that when two people who have an extreme desire for love and are not particularly abnormal are put together, it is extremely easy for them to "fall in love."

Also, I think it's important, though not necessary, to know someone before the dating begins, so that you are exposed to more than just their trying-to-impress personality.

I obviously don't think this is everyone's experience with dating sites, I just feel like something along the lines of this happened to the great majority who have claimed to found "success" with online dating.

I recently spoke to my parents on the subject, and they have a rather different view.

They reminded me that most people opt for the bar when trying to date, which is far more dangerous and more likely to result in a dead-end relationship, if it even goes past a one-night stand.

They also stressed that most prominent dating websites do background checks, so there's little risk of dating a pedophile, criminal, etc.

According to them, there was nothing wrong with wanting a long-term relationship right from the start. To quote my dad, "dating is not a recreational activity," which is something I decided was better to not comment on.

Though I don't exactly agree with them, their reactions made me think.

Maybe I am just naive and tend to romanticize the world, although I don't believe I do...but then who does?

Any opinions at all would be greatly appreciated. You can even cuss me out if you want. I need to hear more thoughts on the matter before I have a fully formed opinion.

Thanks for reading my ramble!

What This Blog Is All About Kinda Sorta Maybe Possibly Doughnut

Warning: Title has little relevance to actual post. No doughnuts will be mentioned. I apologize for any confusion.

Although, like multitudes of other people in the world, I consider myself to be a very open-minded person, it has recently become apparent to me that I am guilty of making the same petty judgement as the people that I once had the audacity to call "narrow-minded." Perhaps the most narrow-minded thing is to assume that you are not narrow-minded. After all, if you are narrow-minded you would not realize it. Few people put in effort to end up that way. In their mind, the way the see the world is perfectly accurate, and it is naive to assume that you are not one of those people, because if you assume that you automatically are. Although the title may be misleading, this is not a blog where I (exclusively) judge other people. It is more of a learning process for me; a way to put my thoughts in writing and then look back with a self-criticizing mindset and see if I'm in the wrong. I feel this is a habit everyone should have (although not necessary blog about) because it is all too easy to approve of everything you do. Rather than criticize others, you should question yourself and your own decisions whenever possible. And that is what this blog is as of now...

And here I was thinking I was only going to write a couple of sentences.